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Last weekend Father Brunkan gave that same knock me over the head message that I was needing to hear at the exact moment that he gave it…

Photo courtesy of Brenda Schmitt at Family Fun Night, Roseville

Father Brunkan told a story of a little boy and his interest in a cocoon that a man had.  The man had told the young boy not to touch or bother the cocoon. As time passed the young boy saw the butterfly inside starting to beat its wings against the inside of the cocoon.  The young boy panicked and did the opposite of his instructions and broke open the cocoon to help the butterfly get out. To his amazement the butterfly didn’t flutter away, instead, it dropped to the ground and died.  The boy was embarrassed and sheepishly returned to the man. The man explained to him that the butterfly NEEDED to struggle and beat its wings against the cocoon to build the strength to survive outside of the cocoon.


The first thing that popped into my head-Parenting!  As parents, there are so many times that we want to just fix things for our kids, especially when they are living in our homes (cocoons).  It is so hard to watch them make bad decisions, big mistakes, and get their hearts broke. It would be SO easy to talk to that coach for them, call that teacher, or chew out that other kid that stomped on their precious heart. BUT, that does not help them build their wings and fly.  As hard as it is to witness sometimes, we have to let our children flap their wings and struggle. If we as parents don’t let them struggle they will never, ever be able to fly on their own.


Then I thought about was myself.  There have been SO many times that I have asked why?  Asked the question about why certain things have happened in my life. Why Crohn's? Why meningitis? Why have I had to lose good people in my life? I guess the why might be to strengthen my wings. Had I not been through all of my health struggles I might not be such an understanding person.  Had I not had meningitis I might have chosen to live my life in a different manner and not be a person that focused on dreaming big and huge. The struggle has gotten me where I needed to be today!


Lastly, I started thinking about our agriculture community. We have been hit hard!  I would venture to guess that most farmers and ranchers would tell you that they don’t feel like a butterfly trying to flap their wings to strengthen them, but they feel like the butterfly that is trying to remove itself from the grill of a Chevy that was driving down a blacktop in rural Iowa.  It’s hard, EVERYONE is asking why. Why so much rain? Why floods? Why the prices? While I don’t know the answer to why I do know that there is no better community to witness coming together than the agriculture community. In hard times and time of loss of life, farmers and ranchers, resemble a roost of monarchs coming together and those farmers will beat their wings just as hard as those monarchs headed south to help a neighbor in need.  I pray that we continue to keep that same courage to keep flapping through this hard season of life, encouraging each other to look ahead and I know buried deep somewhere there is a plan to make us all stronger by beating our wings through it.

What does Father's story make you think about? If you have a favorite story from Father Brunkan I would love to hear it, you can write it in the comments.

From the gravel road-


We have been "fairly"lucky this year and I am truly grateful for that, but I found this post that I had written long ago and felt that it was so true I just had to share it!

5 Facts:

1. You will start to get comfortable examining poop and puke for its color, texture and smell in case you need to describe it to a doctor.

2. As a parent you will learn to function on very minimal sleep, with one eye open and one ear open to listen for the sound of a puking child.

3. To make things easier you may decide to just sleep in the sick child’s bedroom to try to get the bowl where it needs to be just in the nick of time.  Hence the #3 Insane but true fact about parenting, your body will be able to contort to sleep in all sorts of weird positions and you will more than likely wake up snuggling a pillow pet instead of your significant other.

4.  During the day your kids will probably act like nothing is wrong (at night their temp will rise to chili pepper status) and will want to play something really messy like play-doh. No matter how hard you try to teach your children that the correct play-doh color needs to stay in the correct container, every container will eventually contain the color of play-doh that you described to the doctor in regards to your child’s poop or puke.


5. You can wash your hands until they bleed, buy stock in Lysol, and sanitize every surface, but in the end when your crying, pooping, puking, coughing child wants you hold them you will and next week you will probably be the crying, coughing, puking, pooping parent.

There you have it 5 (Insane) But True Facts About Parenting When Your Kids Have The Flu!  We are truly blessed with our two beautiful girls and that they are healthy (most of the time.)

Do you have any funny stories about parenting?  Do you agree with any of these facts?

From the gravel road-


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